Tag: Parenting

Ambition, America, Life, Motivation, Parenting And Relationships

Self Reliance

Anthony Dixon

Self Reliance

My last Blog I wrote about a Homeless Woman in her Twenties, I pondered how that was possible. Today I got the Answer watching a young and proud Father Lugging his Five years old Son into a Supermarket pushing a Cart. My Mother told me that I could not wait to walk at Seven Months old. Tumbling down frequently, but never stopped trying until I got it. Believe it or not selfreliance starts that early. Once you’ve got it no one can take it away from you. Selfreliance rivals Self-preservation, they are actually Cousins. At eight years old, my Brother and Two Friends almost killed me. They tried to teach me how to Swim many times, but I just wasn’t grasping it. One Day they invited me to join them in a small Boat to go Fishing. Just about One Hundred yards from the Shore, They shoved me in the Ocean, Forty Feet deep. This was their Foolproof way of getting me to learn how to Swim. After Drinking a Belly full of that Saltwater, I decided that I wasn’t going under again. I started Doggy paddling, then stretched myself out and started Breast Stroking to the Shore.

That was my Ultimate Lesson in Self Reliance and Self-preservation. Still only Eight years old, on that same Beachfront. One Day while fishing from the Shore, I heard a Commotion coming from a Boat half sunken from the weight it was carrying. As the Boat got closer I could see my Friend Lefty paddling with his One remaining Hand. Lefty was the One who taught me how to Fish. While Teaching me how to Fish he told me how he lost his Right Hand. One Day He was fishing, a Fish the same size as the One in the sinking Boat he was paddling towards me begging for help to Moor the Boat. On that Fateful Day when he lost his Arm, he was fishing with a Surf Rod and Hundred pounds Test Line. A Blue Marlin took the Bait and Broke the Rod. Poor Lefty didn’t want to lose Months of good eating. He wrapped the Hundred pounds Test just below the Elbow. In my lifetime I have seen Nine Hundred pounds Marlins. No one knows how big was the Fish that Surgically removed his Forearm Five years earlier. Today was my Day to become a Man. I swam out to the Boat to help Lefty, he threw me the Mooring Rope. I swam back to the Shore and with every Muscle in me, I pulled that Boat carrying a Four Hundred pounds Marlin, till the Bottom was stuck in the Sand.

For my Reward, Lefty gave me a Sixty pounds Slab of Fish that was sold at Twenty Dollars a Pound. That’s a Six Hundred dollars payday for an Eight year old. Not all Boys are Fortunate to live Tom Sawyer’s Life. But robbing them of the right to learn Independence is absolutely wrong. Anyway getting back to that young Father. Teaching your kids to be Lazy also starts that early. To tell the truth, I have seen Nine and Ten years old sitting in the Shopping Cart while their Parents pushed them around the whole Store. On the Kid’s part, that is Lazy and Spoiled rotten. On the Parents part that is Stupid and careless, Knuckling under to some spoiled Child’s whim’s. Can you believe all of this, just to tell you about a Man who was my Neighbor. The Name is Fictitious, however the Man was real. Ever since I moved to Florida, I have noticed an inordinate amount of Grown Men, some as Old as Sixty riding Bicycles as their main means of Transportation.

That usually happens when your License is lifted Permanently, for either DUI or just plain Negligence John was about Fifty years old living with his Spry Seventy years old Mother. Who Owned the House, Bought the Food, paid the bills and bought his Cigarettes. He didn’t Drink, so that told the Story of his Driving Privilege restrictions. He had no Hobbies Craft or Vocation. However he had a Pet Dragon ( a big Lizard) and that is the end of this Blog. She never allowed him to grow up, now she has a Fifty years old Boy on her Hands. Parting Words ” you have to let them stretch their Legs”. Otherwise, they will never stand on their own Two Feet. I have got to tell you Guys, I love writing in this Paradoxical Style…What does it mean if someone is paradoxical?
adjective. If something is paradoxical, it involves two facts or qualities that seem to contradict each other. Some sedatives produce the paradoxical effect of making the person more anxious. (Highs and lows, happy and sad) Synonyms: contradictory, inconsistent, incongruous, ironic. My Mom’s favorite Phrase was ” In Harmony” My favorite Word is incongruous – not in Harmony. I have just completed my First Book, it’s about the forbidden Subject- Racism! In it I am Critical of the Church while Acknowledging God’s Grace. I Lambasted Haters while Praising my White Friends. I Sympathize with the Plight of the Black Man, being One, while kicking him in the Ass for Black on Black Hate and for not Knowing that Africa was once the Greatest of Empires. If that isn’t Paradoxical then the Word doesn’t exist. Now I begin the Journey of finding a Publisher or to Publish it myself on Amazon. I have Two Hundred and Fifty Followers on WordPress and Eight Hundred Fake Friends on Facebook and maybe Twenty Real Ones. That’s a good start for Sharing the Ebook version. Anyway Life is just a Play and we are all just Bit Players. How you play your Role determines who we are.

Parenting And Relationships

Tomorrow is already Here

Anthony Dixon

Tomorrow is already Here

Today I met a young person Twelve Days old, I said hello and wished him well. As I walked away I wondered how will he turn out be. In an earlier Blog I wrote that young Children are like a sheet of blank paper. What is written on it dictates the rest of their life. Meaning whatever that is Taught by their Parents and whatever that is absorbed from their Environment, shapes the rest of their lives. People are so selfish that they don’t recognize that the little person is their responsibility to mold them into their very best. People are so self encrusted. The little people are always the Ones who suffer the most from a bad Relationship, or a bad home Environment. I once had a Conversation with a Two years old who asked me if I was F*****g kidding him. It has always been a preoccupation of mine to Eavesdrop on other People’s conversations since I was Two years old. That is how Children learn by listening to Grown-up people talk. When my kids were young, my wife and I would take our arguments downstairs to the Basement.

Some people exchange blows in front of Infants, not realizing what they are teaching. When I worked for the Resort I confided in a Guest that I wrote Blogs, sometimes about parenting and Relationships. She said I have a Problem that maybe you can help me with. She continued, my four years old loves me dearly. However there are times when he slaps my face repeatedly till it’s red, what should I do? Before I responded I collected my thoughts, if he loved Mommy so dearly, where is this coming from? The only time I ever seen someone getting slapped up, is watching Humphrey or Jimmy roughing someone up. Without being Bold enough to ask her if her Husband ever slapped her, I immediately knew where the Child got that from. Unwittingly his Father was creating a future Woman Beater. I played it off lightly and told her to seek Professional help. Remember the blank sheet of paper? It was filling up Fast with bad Emulations. As I walked away from the Twelve Days Old I wondered who his Parents were.

I wished him well again, hoping that they were Christian minded people who knew that they had a responsibility to fill the Page with Love and Happiness. Not exposing the impressionable Child with their own Bitterness, misery and Hate. I remembered being an Adolescent, watching many of my friends’ Parents who Hated each other, yet they stayed together, for the greater good of the Family. That is not something that I Champion, however it is a commendable gesture. Today people don’t try to mend Fences, they walk in a flash. Like No Doubt said, ” You came up with the Breeze without a warning”. Walking away from the Twelve Days Old I thought about Nikolas Cruz. His Parents separated and Abandoned him to a Family Member. Neither of them had a place for him in their Lives. He grew up in a Meteor Storm of Emotional Turmoil. He acted out at Home and in School. One Day he took his AK-47 to School and killed Seventeen and injured Seventeen. With a little Love and Devotion, that could have been avoided.

Nikolas Cruz
The Face of a clean cut American Kid
Nickolas Cruz

My God, how Incompetent and Neglecting of many of us who call Ourselves Parents. I wrote in my Book that Children Neglected, Feeling Dejected, grow up to be people who commit Hate Crimes. Not only is it important what we write on that blank page, but crumpling it up and tossing it in the garage, sometimes it comes back and starts a Firestorm. I could go on and on about this Subject, but my Followers know that if I can tell a Story with One Sentence, it’s a done Deal. So I leave you with my Favorite Quote, ” As a Tree I bent so shall it grow “.

P.S. Kids Absorbs your Values.

America, Life, Parenting And Relationships, Religion

Melodramatic

Anthony Dixon

Melodramatic

The Theories and lies are flying again. It is Rumored that the Georgia Gunman is supposed to be deeply Religious. Lucefer was an Arc Angel, he sat at God’s Right Hand. Judas Iscariot was One of Jesus Top Deciples. Jim Jones was a Minister who killed 150 of his Followers. Jim and Tammy Baker built a Dynasty from draining the Pockets of thei’r Followers. Jesus said that many would profess his Name. That doesn’t mean that they are Righteous. I went to High School with a Minister’s Son who Pimped his Affections in High School. He had a Dozen Girlfriends all buying him Jewelry and Expensive Gifts for Sex. The Gun Man said he is Religious, I don’t buy it. Fundamental Laws of Religion says thou shalt not kill or Judge. He also stated that he had a Sexual Addiction. Twenty One years old Men rarely is afflicted that way, full of Testosterone maybe. Let me tell you what Sexual Addiction is.

One of my Childhood Friends was so Juiced on Sex, at Seventeen he did a Girl I knew and her Mother. Years later he Got Married, while his Wife was Pregnant he was as busy as a Bee pollinating every Flower he could put to Bed. Before he got Divorced he had a Woman in just about every State and in Canada. However he was just a Boys Scout compared to another young Man I met later on in Life. This Man confined in me that he didn’t know the Names of all his Kids. I was Flabbergasted until he told me that he was Thirty years Old and had Thirty Kids. I am quite sure that he wasn’t done yet. That my Friend is Sexual Addiction. I have said it over and again I am gifted in reading People, Facial Demeanor, Body Language and Words unspoken. This young Man has Issues with People who are not like him, Issues with Society as a whole. His Issues were manipulated by his weak mind. He was a Victim of the New Norm, Divisiveness.

Someone Brainwashed him to believe that Orientals were a  lessor Being and their Lives worthless. Killing them in his Feeble mind was ridding Society of the Evil they represented in his Distorted delusional Mind. Two years ago another likeminded One in South Florida gingerly walked the Hallways of the School he previously attended killing Seventeen of his former Classmates. This is never going to stop, One year earlier in Orlando another Nut walked into a Gay Nightclub and killed over Twenty Partygoers. Gay People in his Mind were the same as the Georgia Shooter’s Mind, worthless and not worthy of Living, he also was supposed to be Religious. Waving the Bible at the Camera doesn’t make you a Believer, with your Divisiveness that makes you a Hypocrite and a Liar. Painting Brushstrokes of Hate and Division is an Abomination on Humanity. Shallowminded, weakminded and Gullible People will follow Lucifer away from God and Righteousness.

People have been Killing in the name of the Lord for Centuries, thinking that they are helping him Ridding the World of Undesirables. These are bad People who when they are caught with the smoking Gun, they play with the Court appointed Psychiatrist  with the Diminished Capacity Card and avoid severe Punishment. Bleeding Hearts have always allowed Monsters to escape harsh Punishment. Like the Man who Raped and Murdered a Teenage Girl in such a Heinous manner. He was given the Death Sentence, when time came for his Execution the Bleading Hearts Raged a Campaign to save his Life that Jesus didn’t get.

Another One in my Old Hometown of Wilkes Barre Pennsylvania Blocks from where I owned a Home. Mr Banks went on a Killing Rampage killing his own Children and Numerous other People. He also Dodged the Chair with Diminished Capacity. This is what I resent most about the Society I am living in, someone is always trying to sell me a load of Bull. Worst of all Fifty Seven Million People Buys it. We are on a Runaway Train with no Breaks. If the Georgia Gunman had Half a Brain and not Buy into the ” China Flu ” and all the Hate Doctrine Eight Innocent People would still be alive.

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Excepts from AOL News
Ten people, including a Boulder police officer, were killed in the shooting.

A suspect, who was injured, is in custody, and there is no ongoing threat to the public, officials said.

Steven said he was so grateful that his family members were safe, and he called for what he termed better gun control laws.

“This has got to stop,” he said. “Every week — every week in the United States there’s a shooting. Now it’s our turn. And that should never be repeated anywhere.”

“You know, every city is susceptible. But there’s a way in which I would think that, ‘Well, this wasn’t going to happen in Boulder,'” he said. “And now we know better.”

America, Life, Parenting And Relationships

Deaf Ears

Anthony Dixon

Deaf Ears

Many years ago I learned that Men who beat thei’r Women were spineless Cowards who wouldn’t pick a fight with another Man. The reason they wouldn’t pick a fight with a Man is because they fear getting thei’r Ass kicked. Several Months ago I proved that Theory. In the Hallway of the Courthouse where I work, a Man arguing with his Woman suddenly hoisted her over his Head. He was getting ready to Body Slam her to the hard Marble Floor. I moved within Three feet of him, not saying a word to him, only staring at him Intensely, he put her down and walked away. If he was big and Bad as he thought himself to be he would have asked me what are you looking at. He also would have told me to mind your own Business.

Years ago on a Construction Site I broke up a fight that could have ended up with Murder. The aggressor told me to mind my Business or I would be next. That didn’t stop me from getting down on the ground and separating them. Back then I was known as the Hammer. I carried a Hammer on my Hip not just for pounding Nails. Cowardly Jackals who attacked defenceless People are nothing short of being Terrorists. If you are a Man with a Gun and you go shooting at unarmed People whether Men or Women you are Chicken Shit. Pretty much like a Woman Beater,  you know that there won’t be any Bullets coming back, whizzing by your Head so you feel empowered and Brave. I have always been anti Guns since Fourteen years old.

One Day I beat a Bully into a Pulp with a Two by Four, only to find out that his Two older Brothers Seventeen and Eighteen were seasoned Gunmen who had killed before. One Saturday they crashed Rival Terroterries. Everyone in that Backyard was Armed. They all draw and fired at these Two Badass, Executing them. That’s how you deal with People carrying Guns that makes them feel Powerful, you meet Force with Force. I went to the Viewing of my intended Killers uninvited, opened the closed Caskets to see what their Bullets Dimpled faces looked Like. Fourteen years old and I decided that I would never own a Gun. This week a young Man who was entrenched in Hatered, killed Eight People in Georgia, a place South of Delaware where just about everyone believe in the Right to bear Arms. Even if you are a Complete Nut. I am not showing any Sympathy for Mental Illness in a Society that would Die before giving up their Rights to bear Arms.
Long was arrested in Crisp County, about 125 miles south of Atlanta, after his family helped police track his phone.( A 9 mm firearm that he purchased legally )on the day of the shootings was found in the car he was driving, said two senior law enforcement officials briefed about the matter.

So when One of your Children who can’t deal with the Pressures of Life and decide to take up a Vantage Point and start Dropping People like Ducks, save your Phony Sorrows. There are Politicians who are Elected strictly on a Platform of not Addressing Gun Laws. These same Politicians refuse to acknowledge that Mental Illnesses are out of Control. Mixed with all the Hate that’s been Preached and spread, sometimes by they themselves, we all need to run out and buy a Bulletproof Vest. Maybe it’s time to change my stance on Gun Ownership. If we all were Packing and someone carrying a Gun looses it, we all could pull and avoid Carnage.

Two years ago a Seventeen years old in South Florida gingerly walked the Hallways killing seventeen of his Fellow Classmates. If One Teacher was Armed lives would have been saved. But the same Bleading Hearts who say that Guns don’t belong in Schools Elects Mario Rubio who gets Donations from the N.R.A. The Law Enforcement Officer on Duty on the Campus heard the First Shot, yet he didn’t go into the Building to confront the Shooter. I can’t help wondering during his Twenty plus years as a Cop how many young Black Kids running away from him did he draw his Gun on. Many years ago in Connecticut a young Man who was a Recluse who stayed in his Room listening to Head Bangers Music, hoisting Read Flags.

Everyone owns an Assault Rifle

The Flags were not noticed by his Mother who took him to the Gun Range with her. I guess that on this Fateful Day he was having a Bad Day. Pretty much like the Spokesman for the Sheriff Deputy in Georgia said . He said Robert Aaron Long who killed Eight People was having a Bad day. That young Man in Connecticut woke up One Morning, shot and Killed his Mother who casted a Blind Eye on her Sons Red Flags. Then went to a Kindergarten and killed Twenty Seven People, mostly Babies Seven years Old. All those Innocent Babies Lives meant nothing to the hardcore Gun Rights Activists.

What will it take to Convince People that Stricter Gun Laws are needed to protect those of us who don’t Own One. Look what The Second Amendment to the United States did to the Capitol. There were enough Armed People in the Mob to start a War. Like Wu Tang said ” The Revolution will be Televised”, and so it came to pass. Peter Paul and Mary puts it Best, ” Where have all the flowers gone, long time passing?
Where have all the flowers gone, long time ago?
Where have all the flowers gone?
Young girls have picked them, every one
Oh when will they ever learn, oh when will they ever learn?. No One is asking to take away your Toys, all I am asking is to Protect our Children who don’t pack Guns. I believe it’s Peter Gabriel who said, ” Another One bites the Dust, and another one gone and another one gone. Smile when you say that Stranger- John Wayne. Hard Issues needs to be addressed, you cant cast a Blind Eye and Deaf Ears, One Day they will come back and bite you on the Ass.

Life, Parenting And Relationships

Foxy Roxie

Anthony Dixon

Jonbene’t Ramsey was killed in the year 1996. Whoever would want to snuff out this little Princesses Life is an absolute Monster. However there have been many of speculations about her being thrown into a womanly character at Six years old, and that she could have attracted the wrong kind of Admirer. Dressing a Child like a Vixen is just totally wrong. Anyway that is the Motivation for this Blog, being bred to be a Temptress. Women who encourage their little Girls to be overly Seductive as early as twelve years old. My Wife have always Maintained that men are Dogs. In One of my earlier Blogs I wrote One Titled Prudence, when  I worked at the Resort on St Pete Beach. One Day walking down the Road I noticed a Girl Twelve or Thirteen walking with her Mother, her Father and her younger Brother. What struck me about this Family was that the Girl was crying and her Hands covering her Naked Top. Even though we were only One Block from the Beach, its not a topless Beach.

What struck me about the Child was that she had Modesty. Same Place and Time I noticed two Fifteen years old in the Kiddie Pool just about doing it. I Observed their Techniques and know that they were Frisky Reguarly. Yet another Reason for this Blog, overly Seductive, overly Sexy and overly Amorous. Another thing I also think about is one of my Childhood Friends Becoming a Father at Seventeen, and a Fifteen years old Girl pulling a Train on five young Boys, me being Twelve years old, being introduced to Sex. And so they grow up wild and Loose. Two years ago in Tampa a Fifteen years old Girl was Raped and Killed, her Body dumped in the Woods Like Trash. Story told she was always a Runaway who spent the Weekends with Boys or Men. If you put yourself in the line of fire, you will catch stray Bullets, better yet stray Dogs.

So now we go back to priming young Girls to be Seductive. They grow up and takes it to the Workplace. Their Attire leaves nothing for the Imagination. Today in the Courthouse a Plus Size Woman bent over at the Counter to pay her Fines. Her Pantyline smiled at me. Yet if we were in a work Environment,  being a Married Man, If I leered at her Curvatures, I would be an O.D.B.( Old Dirty Bastard) If I was her Boss and I stared to long it would be Sexual Harassment. When she stood up straight her Boobs were popping out of the Excessively tight Dress. In my Mind , She has been Twerking since Twelve.

Put her in a Business Suit Two Sizes too small with a Skirt Eight inches above the Knee and the Natives become restless. I have been Married since working at Solomon Brothers 1980. I have had Managing Director’s Mistress throw themselves at me. Women who were set-up in a Five Thousand Dollars a Month Apartment. They were College Educated, but chose to use their Wares, instead of their Minds. Then there were the ones who used their Minds and got nowhere. They ran the Back office skillfully, while their Boss got The Credits and the Rewards. 1980 there were no Female Managing Directors on Wall St.The Only thing that kept me straight was having a Wife who I knew would throw me out on the Street, with no Shoes on my Feet, also being fired from Solomon.

Love is Grand

Workplace Romances were only tolerated with Managing Directors. Among the Ranks, you are Fired. Being Married for Forty One years, if you called me a Girlwatcher, I wouldn’t be Offended. That’s how you stay Married for Forty One years. You look but don’t touch you look but don’t Leer or Drool. You keep your Comments to yourself. You think about the Consequences of a Divorce for a Moment’s Pleasure. All this falls under the Heading of Intellectual Intelligence .

Having Empathy for other People’s feelings and being Jurisprudence with your Emotions and Behavior. Being able to hold your Tongue and Thoughts, whether mad or glad happy. Intellectual Intelligence separates us from the Stray Cats and Dogs in the Alley. I love Mario Cuomo, I remember his Sons growing up and getting into the News for their Indiscretions. Now they are all grown up. As my Mother always said ” You’ve made your Bed, now lay in it. After all that I have said coming up to this point, I hope some young Man comes away with what I am not saying. Like Phil said ” Shut your Mouth, keep your Hands on the Wheel”, while the Female Artist cooed ” I like a Man with slow Hands”. Even better yet ” Don’t hand me no lines and keep your Hands to yourself” Well there you have it I have said my Peace, as Subtlety as possible. You can’t have a Show with no Audience and you can’t go touching the Tomatoes without buying, Oui La La La.