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Ambition, Life, Motivation, Parenting And Relationships

Children with Big Ears

Anthony Dixon

The other day I spoke with my new Publishing Company, they will Publish, ” Through her Eyes/Revised Edition” my second Book. I told the Publisher that I had written probably 450 Blogs, I told him that I took a year off from writing Blogs. He admonished me and told me that I should never stop writing. The following is the first draft of my Children Book for all ages including Parents. This one is a Treat for my earliest Readers. Remember that my first earlier Blogs were about Parenting and Relationship.

Children with Big Ears

Desire for knowledge stands as one of the most remarkable gifts a person can possess. Some individuals are born with innate talents, distinguishing them as prodigies, while the rest of us must cultivate our understanding as we age. This endeavor resembles the growth of fruits—like strawberries maturing into delectable sweetness, or lemons evolving into tangy tartness. The choice between the two signifies the paths we select in life.

Yet, nurturing such paths demands unique skills, particularly evident in the realm of parenting. Many young individuals lack these aptitudes or the time to acquire them. As people transition into parenthood, a pivotal transformation should transpire—aligning their lives to guide their children towards virtue and away from negative exemplars. Children are the quintessential learners, absorbing behaviors, values, and insights through observation, listening, and emulation. They begin life as blank canvases, their actions and demeanor shaped predominantly by external influences


This discussion naturally leads us to the crux of this book—the power of parental words and actions. Parents, as humans, are inherently imperfect. There are instances when their actions might not align with the virtues they strive to impart to their offspring. Occasionally, they might overlook the presence of little listeners, unaware that not all conversations are suitable for young ears. Moreover, certain children exhibit an innate curiosity, going out of their way to eavesdrop on conversations meant for adults. A personal recollection underscores this point: during my own childhood, I earned the moniker “Big Ears,” a playful nod to my penchant for eavesdropping. The adults around me took care to ensure my absence when sensitive discussions arose.
This inadvertently honed my conversational skills early on, but there were occasions when I encountered information beyond my years. Coping with this involved striving to mature responsibly, despite negative influences, like exposure to a father’s coarse language due to alcohol consumption.

Undoubtedly, children often find themselves caught between the ripple effects of their parents’ choices. Raised in households where parents engage in heated arguments replete with expletives, children inadvertently absorb this toxicity. However, the responsibility of personal growth and distinguishing right from wrong lies within each young heart. Despite being shaped by parental influence, each individual can discern their own path. A wise adage my wife shared echoes this sentiment: “God gave you a brain, use it.” Even in youth, one possesses a functional mind that can define their character to the world—an individual of refinement, devoid of vulgarity. Foul language only serves to detract from the intelligence one exudes.

Understanding that children with dirty mouths often mimic their parents’ language should not surprise us. This phenomenon stems from parental carelessness—failing to recognize the impact their words can have on impressionable minds. Additionally, some children possess a natural curiosity, unaware of the distinction between adult and inappropriate conversations.


A poignant aspect of this scenario involves children inadvertently repeating the undesirable language they overhear. Consider three examples of young minds with big ears and potty mouths, parroting learned obscenities. A precocious nephew, at the age of two, astounded everyone by reading and echoing television dialogue. A conversation took an unexpected turn when he sternly questioned my intentions, employing a profanity he had picked up. Similarly, a daughter of my brother, along with a neighbor’s son, engaged in a heated exchange of obscenities at just six years old. The absence of guidance led them to employ language they didn’t comprehend fully.

A child’s brain functions like a sponge, absorbing both the pure and the profane. A vivid memory surfaces from assisting a friend in his basement while his children bickered above. The language they employed, reminiscent of alley cats, exposed them to unsuitable dialogue. Neither my friend nor my brother anticipated the keenness of their children’s ears. Hence, fostering good parenting necessitates understanding that children observe and learn not only from wholesome words but also from their parents’ lapses.

In order to guide parents along their journey, children hold a unique power—the power to reflect their parents’ behavior. By addressing parental shortcomings and strengths, children catalyze personal growth. When parents express profanities, commendable behaviors, or kind words, children have an invaluable opportunity to communicate, “I am learning from you; I aspire to emulate you.” This process begins early, as a ten-year-old boy adeptly operates a cash register in a bustling grocery store, independent of his father’s aid. This is the essence of rapid maturity—discerning right from wrong, avoiding profanity, and recognizing that growing up is a constant endeavor. Exceptional instances, such as the story of Jasoul, further underscore this notion. A poised eight-year-old, she effortlessly engages in adult conversations, indicating early mastery of comportment and conversation. This is a testament to not only her upbringing but also her determination to embody positivity. Her story is a testament to the exceptional potential children harbor, shaped by their environment and innate resolve.

Ultimately, the journey to personal growth is fueled by the desire to emulate positive role models, address negative influences, and embrace the unwavering commitment to moral conduct. A future resounding with “I am going to be just like you” hinges on the pursuit of growth, resilience, and the power of choice. This, in turn, shapes not just the individual, but also the generations to come.

P.S.
The Book will be high Gloss hard Cover with plenty of my Best Photos.

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A Labor of Love

Anthony Dixon

Spitting out Words 45000 at a time is a Labor of Love, Wanting to tell a Story so bad, you force yourself to become a better Writer, Constant Promotion yields Results. I Am quite sure that you remember me telling you about writing a Blog in One Sentence?

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The Book / Through Her Eyes

Anthony Dixon

Way back in 1910 People who had Children with Special needs would hide their Children away. Never to be seen in public, when they had visitors, the Children would be locked away in the Attic or Basement. Ignorance and Indifference was the norm. In 1972 my Twelve years old Buddy and I would sit in the back of the School near the Rectory. While the Sun faded in the Skyline, we would sit there smoking the Finest Marijuana grown around the World. He would tell me Stories about his Classmates being Emasculated in the Rectory. I would tell him that he was making up Stories. He would say Pope, the Name he called me, I Swear it’s true. Forty years later his Stories made Headlines. Back then you say something like that about the Church and your Parents would tell you to get down on your Knees and beg the Lord for Forgiveness. Back then speaking about Homosexuality was a Taboo. So was having an open Discussion about Racism. Our Parents would say, that’s just the way things are, leave it alone, end of Discussion. Fifty Three years later and the Mindset remains the same. In Fifty Three years of being in the Workforce, there has not been One Day that I never experienced some form of Racism. Yet my Friends, White and Black, look at me Queerly when I tell them what my Book is about. In other words like our Parents said Fifty Three years ago, leave it alone. What is up with People leaving an Important Discussion alone. Way back then people didn’t have that Sex Talk with their Children.

People went to Woodstock and slept in a different Tent with a different Partner for One Week. Look at the Outcome, Aids. At Fifteen years old my Mother had that Sex Talk with me. She said when you are feeling your Oats thinking that you are a Man, don’t forget to keep your Drawers up. She continued, you don’t have a Job or an Education. How are you going to take care of a Child? Furthermore, I am not going to raise your kids. She was not your average Mother. As far as Racism was concerned, she said, no One is better than you, more Privileged, better Educated and more Money, but no better. She continued, they may never accept you but they will always Respect you for the job you do. It was her Inspiration that kept my Head above the Muddy Waters of Racism growing up in the Seventies. And Today in appreciation for her Wisdom, I wrote my first Book, giving a Tribute to her. What else would I have Titled my Book? Through Her Eyes is due in the Barnes and Noble online Bookstore in October. I refuse to lock my Feelings away in the Attic and Basement of Indifference. If you don’t have needed Discussions, one day they will Explode in your Head and your Face.

For instance not Teaching your Kids Sensitivity. Many years ago in Greenwich Village in N.Y.C. a young Gay Man was beaten to a Pulp with Baseball Bats by Five Kids from Good Families. The Man Died of his Injuries, not knowing the reasons for his Attack. Through Her Eyes is the Recounting of Fifty Three years of Insensitivity. If we don’t have that Discussion now, Fifty Three years from now Innocent People will still be meeting their Death with Baseball Bats. Look where we’ve been and see where we are going. Through Her Eyes isn’t looking through Colored Glass, it’s One Blogger’s Journalistic Recounting of living in America. It’s a darn Shame that when you tell People the truth, you don’t know how they are going to react. So to my Followers if you really want to Know who I am you need to read my Book when it becomes available. After writing this I asked my Wife? How’s that for an Infomercial? She said I was only telling it like it is. She was Born in South Carolina, Twenty Miles from Sumter where the Civil War started. A War to keep Slavery intact. She went to a Blacks only School and couldn’t drink from a white only Water fountain if she was Dying of Thirst. She has not read my Book, the memories are still Haunting.

Nicolas Cruz
Killed 17 fellow Students

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My Emotional Psych

Anthony Dixon

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My Emotional Psych

What is emotional psychology?

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), emotion is defined as “a complex reaction pattern, involving experiential, behavioral and physiological elements.” Emotions are how individuals deal with matters or situations they find personally significant.

Thirty years ago while doing Interior Demolition work in a Cell in a Federal Prison, where most of the Prisoners were Lifers. I took down a Wall, inside the Wall this Picture laid in a pile of dirt. I cleaned it up and saved it for Thirty years, now it has found its Rightful place on the Cover of my first Book. The Picture signifies to me the Freeing of One’s Soul, being set free from this Despotic Place we call Earth. Can you imagine someone doing a Life Sentence, never to ever again walk the Streets as a free Man. So much longing to be free, coming up with such a Concept that this Picture Portrays. Then I think to myself, I’m not Free. One year ago I was on my way Home after working in the Courthouse, crossing a Bridge that People do One Hundred M.P.H. nightly. My Car does 170, yet I have never taken it past 80, in a 70MPH zone. The Bridge is Posted 45, I never go past 50. Upon exiting the Bridge, at the foot of the Bridge a Police Cruiser lays wait, shining a 600 watt Lamp in my Face while I am doing 50, five MPH over the Speed limit. He pulled me over and wrote me a Ticket, stating that I was doing 60 MPH. Here I am a Contact Employee working for the County being Racially Profiled and given a Padded Ticket. I thought to myself, if this can happen to me, what about some poor Black Kid wearing a Hoodie? A Bullet to the Head at the end of a dark Bridge span could easily be covered up. This Book is my Legacy to all the Innocent young Blacks sitting in a Prison Cell longing for Freedom, or setting their Souls free. Like the Man said Give me Liberty or give me Death. I Personally find Racism a Significant enough of an Issue to write a Book about it. I work in the Government, I Drive Two bad Rides and live in a Predominantly White Middle Class Neighborhood, yet I am not above Bigotry, Racial Profiling and Racism, so what chances do a Poor Dumb Black Kid from the Hood have. The following are my Original Thoughts ” If you have lived long enough to get Old and you have nothing to pass on to the next Generation, in the form of learning and Teachings, you have not truly lived only existed “. This Book is Fifty Three years in the make. Here are Excerpts-from the Book

Yet you tell me that Black Lives Matter, to whom? It don’t make no Matter( Slave Ebonics, meaning it doesn’t make any Difference). As a Contact Employee working in a Justice center, I see so many young Blacks caged up in Prison Cells. I say to myself, their Lives don’t Matter to them, why should it matter to me? When I was a Juvenile Delinquent, I came to the Crossroads and took the right turn. That’s how come I am working in the System and not residing in a Cell. ” To Thine own self be true and Trustworthy” In Mark 8:34 Jesus said, “If anyone would…..My Book is Due in about Two Weeks. I had just finished writing this Boost for my Book in the Fourth Floor Hallway. The Elevator came, I heard footsteps heading my way, so I held the Door open. A young White Brother got on and told me thanks, I asked him what Floor, I punched the floor. Getting off on the Second floor, he gave me the Fist Bump and said Goodnight. I felt a little Guilty for things that I said in the Book about the crooked Justice System, he was an Attorney who worked for the Attorney General. The Bottom line is that with Civility we can live in Harmony, or at least get along. I am not a Hate Monger, I am not Tunnel Visioned, I know that there are Good and Bad in all. I didn’t write this Book for anyone over Thirty, because I’m a firm believer that you can’t teach old Dogs anything, because they are set in their ways. This Book is for young people like the young Attorney on the Elevator. We don’t have to Love Each other, all we need is to be Civil, Respect is Earned, not given or taken. You Guys need to go read my Book when it becomes available. It’s a Small Book filled with Big Thoughts of Mending Fences. It’s Available through XLIBRIs Publications Amazon and Barnes and Noble, when it gets here. Tolstoy is not my favorite Author, Once I have made my Point, I am done Talking.

Life, Parenting And Relationships

Real Friends

Anthony Dixon

 

 

 

I guess that it is true what they say about the writing 🐜 Bug, once you get it there is no stopping. My first Book is Due in the Bookstores before November published by Xlibris. Instead of stressing the outcome I have started on my second Book and have a Third and Fourth in mind.

Here are Excerpts from my first Draft –

 

Real Friends

One of the Great Mysteries of Life is a Child being born with Prodigious Skills in all Faucets in life. My Favorite Child Prodigy is a young man by the name of Mattie Stepanack. Mattie’s Mother was cursed with having Defective Children, all dying before they made it to Adolescent and Teenage. I believe that Mattie made it to Thirteen, I am not One hundred percent sure of that. Undoubtedly Mat was a child Prodigy, he started writing as early as Nine years old. Before the time of his early Demise, he was a Published Author and Speaker. It was not his Fame that Gravitated me to him, it was his deep Empathy and love for his Mother and his Grasp on the Workings of Life. Precisely how life is un-giving, uncertain and unfair. There is no doubt in my mind that he had seen his Mortality way early in his youthful Life. While most of us only Glimpse finality at the very end. Mattie came to mind while I decided to write about true friends and True Love. What brought on this Train of Thought was thinking of my first love and all the People in my life that called me Friend, then faded from my life. I was Twelve years old, Millicent was no more than Ten. That Child Professed her love to me in no uncertain manner and term, in front of both our Parents, I blushed. As if she was saying I belong to you and you are mine for Life. That was the last time I saw Millie, we were saying goodbye, I moved Fifty Miles away. Fifty years later I am asking the question, is there such a thing as a Prodigy of Love, could she have been my Juliet. I don’t know if I am getting ready to Die, but the things that I think about these Days are absolutely Riveting and Bewildering. The most Bewildering thought is, where are all my friends? What happened to Millie and I was beyond our control. But what happened to the People who I grew up with from the time of Millie and beyond. Some of them we made it through High School together. Then we all went our own ways and never looked back or tried to reach out to each other. If this is the way that life should be lived, then life certainly is cheap and is affected by the Impairment of normal Physical, Sociological and Psychological Functions. Living life like this reminds me of the time I rescued a Puppy moments after his mother had just given birth to it, then abandoned it to die. I gave it it’s first Meal, that Pup never had one sip of it’s Mother’s Milk. That was totally unbecoming of any Mother, Human or Dog. That should have been an Eye opener for me of the way things have become, Humans have become Animalistic and Animals shows Human Traits. Many young women have left their newborns on the Steps of Churches, or Dumpsters. All this gives Credence to the Phrase Dog eat Dog World.