Tag: Parenting

The other day I spoke with my new Publishing Company, they will Publish, ” Through her Eyes/Revised Edition” my second Book. I told the Publisher that I had written probably 450 Blogs, I told him that I took a year off from writing Blogs. He admonished me and told me that I should never stop writing. The following is the first draft of my Children Book for all ages including Parents. This one is a Treat for my earliest Readers. Remember that my first earlier Blogs were about Parenting and Relationship.

Children with Big Ears

Desire for knowledge stands as one of the most remarkable gifts a person can possess. Some individuals are born with innate talents, distinguishing them as prodigies, while the rest of us must cultivate our understanding as we age. This endeavor resembles the growth of fruits—like strawberries maturing into delectable sweetness, or lemons evolving into tangy tartness. The choice between the two signifies the paths we select in life.

Yet, nurturing such paths demands unique skills, particularly evident in the realm of parenting. Many young individuals lack these aptitudes or the time to acquire them. As people transition into parenthood, a pivotal transformation should transpire—aligning their lives to guide their children towards virtue and away from negative exemplars. Children are the quintessential learners, absorbing behaviors, values, and insights through observation, listening, and emulation. They begin life as blank canvases, their actions and demeanor shaped predominantly by external influences

This discussion naturally leads us to the crux of this book—the power of parental words and actions. Parents, as humans, are inherently imperfect. There are instances when their actions might not align with the virtues they strive to impart to their offspring. Occasionally, they might overlook the presence of little listeners, unaware that not all conversations are suitable for young ears. Moreover, certain children exhibit an innate curiosity, going out of their way to eavesdrop on conversations meant for adults. A personal recollection underscores this point: during my own childhood, I earned the moniker “Big Ears,” a playful nod to my penchant for eavesdropping. The adults around me took care to ensure my absence when sensitive discussions arose.
This inadvertently honed my conversational skills early on, but there were occasions when I encountered information beyond my years. Coping with this involved striving to mature responsibly, despite negative influences, like exposure to a father’s coarse language due to alcohol consumption.

Undoubtedly, children often find themselves caught between the ripple effects of their parents’ choices. Raised in households where parents engage in heated arguments replete with expletives, children inadvertently absorb this toxicity. However, the responsibility of personal growth and distinguishing right from wrong lies within each young heart. Despite being shaped by parental influence, each individual can discern their own path. A wise adage my wife shared echoes this sentiment: “God gave you a brain, use it.” Even in youth, one possesses a functional mind that can define their character to the world—an individual of refinement, devoid of vulgarity. Foul language only serves to detract from the intelligence one exudes.

Understanding that children with dirty mouths often mimic their parents’ language should not surprise us. This phenomenon stems from parental carelessness—failing to recognize the impact their words can have on impressionable minds. Additionally, some children possess a natural curiosity, unaware of the distinction between adult and inappropriate conversations.

A poignant aspect of this scenario involves children inadvertently repeating the undesirable language they overhear. Consider three examples of young minds with big ears and potty mouths, parroting learned obscenities. A precocious nephew, at the age of two, astounded everyone by reading and echoing television dialogue. A conversation took an unexpected turn when he sternly questioned my intentions, employing a profanity he had picked up. Similarly, a daughter of my brother, along with a neighbor’s son, engaged in a heated exchange of obscenities at just six years old. The absence of guidance led them to employ language they didn’t comprehend fully.

A child’s brain functions like a sponge, absorbing both the pure and the profane. A vivid memory surfaces from assisting a friend in his basement while his children bickered above. The language they employed, reminiscent of alley cats, exposed them to unsuitable dialogue. Neither my friend nor my brother anticipated the keenness of their children’s ears. Hence, fostering good parenting necessitates understanding that children observe and learn not only from wholesome words but also from their parents’ lapses.

In order to guide parents along their journey, children hold a unique power—the power to reflect their parents’ behavior. By addressing parental shortcomings and strengths, children catalyze personal growth. When parents express profanities, commendable behaviors, or kind words, children have an invaluable opportunity to communicate, “I am learning from you; I aspire to emulate you.” This process begins early, as a ten-year-old boy adeptly operates a cash register in a bustling grocery store, independent of his father’s aid. This is the essence of rapid maturity—discerning right from wrong, avoiding profanity, and recognizing that growing up is a constant endeavor. Exceptional instances, such as the story of Jasoul, further underscore this notion. A poised eight-year-old, she effortlessly engages in adult conversations, indicating early mastery of comportment and conversation. This is a testament to not only her upbringing but also her determination to embody positivity. Her story is a testament to the exceptional potential children harbor, shaped by their environment and innate resolve.

Ultimately, the journey to personal growth is fueled by the desire to emulate positive role models, address negative influences, and embrace the unwavering commitment to moral conduct. A future resounding with “I am going to be just like you” hinges on the pursuit of growth, resilience, and the power of choice. This, in turn, shapes not just the individual, but also the generations to come.

P.S.
The Book will be high Gloss hard Cover with plenty of my Best Photos.