Category: Emotional Intelligence

Contemporary Romance, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Helpful Conversations, Life, Romance

Excerpts from my next Book

Anthony Dixon

“Love is forever/ With the right one”

: Learning to See Beyond Myself

If there’s one lesson Laura taught me that changed the trajectory of my life, it’s this: the world doesn’t revolve around me. I’ve always had a quick wit, a penchant for humor that bordered on reckless, and a tendency to act first and think later. While those traits might make for amusing anecdotes in hindsight, they often came at the expense of other people’s feelings, especially Laura’s. She had the patience and wisdom to teach me how to temper those impulses, turning my rough edges into something smoother, more considerate, and better attuned to the people around me, Emotional intelligence.

There were countless moments where my lack of consideration could have driven a wedge between us, but Laura’s approach was always one of love and guidance. Take the incident at the doctor’s office, for example. That ill-timed joke—referring to her as a “miserable woman”—might have been amusing in my head, but it didn’t land that way for her. Her reaction wasn’t just a defense of her own dignity; it was a lesson for me to be more mindful of how my words impacted others.

Laura didn’t just tell me what I was doing wrong; she showed me what right looked like. Through her actions, I learned the value of kindness, thoughtfulness, and the power of empathy. She had a way of seeing people—not just what they showed on the surface but what they carried inside. Watching her interact with others, from family and friends to strangers, was like witnessing a masterclass in emotional intelligence. She taught me that being considerate isn’t just about avoiding hurtful words; it’s about understanding and anticipating how your actions might affect someone else.

Over time, her influence rounded me out. I started to think before I spoke, to consider the impact of my jokes, my decisions, and even my silences. Laura made me realize that humor, while a gift, is best used to uplift rather than tear down. She taught me that thoughtlessness, even when unintentional, can chip away at relationships if left unchecked.

But more than that, Laura showed me that being considerate isn’t just about avoiding harm—it’s about actively choosing to bring joy, comfort, and understanding into other people’s lives. It’s about seeing the world through someone else’s eyes and recognizing that their feelings, struggles, and triumphs matter just as much as your own.

Learning these lessons wasn’t always easy. There were times when my stubbornness got the better of me, and moments when I slipped back into old habits. But Laura’s love was unwavering. She didn’t give up on me, even when I gave her every reason to. Instead, she celebrated my progress, no matter how small, and encouraged me to keep striving toward becoming the best version of myself.

Now, I look back on my early years with Laura not with shame, but with gratitude. Gratitude for her patience, her strength, and her ability to see the good in me, even when I couldn’t. She didn’t just round me out; she reshaped the way I see the world and my place in it. Because of her, I’ve learned that being thoughtful and considerate isn’t just a skill—it’s a way of life, and one that I strive to embody every day.

Ambition, America, Black History, Dr King, Emotional Intelligence, Helpful Conversations, Inclusion, Life, Motivation, Parenting And Relationships, Self help

Individual thinkers

Anthony Dixon

The Silent Curriculum: What I Wasn’t Taught in School

Introduction

The powerful lyrics of The Cars’ song, “You can’t go on thinking nothing is wrong,” resonate with me now more than ever. These words echo the sentiments I’ve carried for decades, especially when I reflect on my own educational journey. Fifty years have passed, and the realization has dawned on me: the education system failed me. This isn’t just my story; it’s a narrative shared by many who felt that their schooling did not prepare them for the world in all its complexity.

The Shortcomings of Traditional Education

Albert Einstein once expressed similar frustrations, famously noting that his teachers never taught him what he truly wanted to learn. He wasn’t alone in this feeling. In many ways, my experience mirrored Einstein’s. The curriculum was rigid, focused on rote memorization and standardized tests, rather than fostering curiosity and critical thinking. History, in particular, was sanitized, with key parts of our past either glossed over or omitted entirely.

Slavery, for instance, was a seldom-referenced word in all my history classes. The horrors and implications of this brutal institution were treated as a footnote in a textbook rather than a significant part of our nation’s history. If it hadn’t been for a real educator—one who saw beyond the curriculum—I might never have understood the importance of continuous learning or the value of the knowledge that wasn’t readily provided by the system.

The Importance of Lifelong Learning

This educator offered me a piece of advice that has stayed with me: “Even if you decide not to go to college, never stop learning. When you stop learning, you begin the process of dying.” These words, echoed by the wisdom of Einstein, have guided me through life. They motivated me to seek knowledge outside the confines of formal education, to question the narrative I was given, and to discover the stories that were left untold.

It was through this self-directed learning that I came to know about the great Emperor Menelik II of Ethiopia, a leader who successfully defended his country against colonial powers. I learned about Enoch, a biblical figure who is often overlooked in mainstream teachings. And I delved into the life of Hannibal, one of the greatest military commanders in history, whose story was barely mentioned in the classrooms I sat in.

The Need for Open Dialogue

Education isn’t just about the transfer of knowledge; it’s about fostering an environment where ideas can be discussed openly, where grievances can be aired, and where uncomfortable truths can be confronted. In a marriage, if there’s a gripe, it must be discussed. Ignoring a problem is like ignoring a tumor—it only grows, eventually becoming malignant. The same principle applies to education and the way we address our history.

In high school, it wasn’t until 1971 that Black History began to be taught, and even then, the subject matter was vague, superficial, and often sanitized. The silence around slavery and other uncomfortable truths spoke louder than words. This silence was not just an oversight; it was a form of complicity. By not addressing these issues head-on, the education system showed a level of indifference that left many students, including myself, searching for answers outside the classroom.

Silence and Complicity

When it comes to subjects like slavery, silence is more than just a lack of information—it’s a powerful statement. Silence in education amounts to complicity in the perpetuation of ignorance. It shows an indifference to the suffering and struggles of those who came before us, and it denies students the full picture of the world they live in.

The curriculum I experienced was more about maintaining the status quo than challenging it. It was about creating obedient citizens rather than critical thinkers. This is why it’s so important to continue learning, to seek out the stories that weren’t told, and to ask the questions that weren’t asked.

Conclusion

Looking back, I realize that my education didn’t end when I left school; it only began. The gaps in my formal education led me to become a lifelong learner, constantly seeking knowledge that wasn’t readily provided. The words of The Cars, “You can’t go on thinking nothing is wrong,” remind me that we must be vigilant in questioning the world around us, especially the narratives we are given.

Education should empower, enlighten, and challenge us. When it fails to do so, we must take it upon ourselves to seek out the truth, to learn, and to grow. Because when we stop learning, we stop living. And in a world where silence still often speaks louder than words, we cannot afford to be complicit. We must continue to ask the hard questions, to confront the uncomfortable truths, and to learn from the past to create a better future. This type of thinking should overlap our efforts to protect and prolong our great Democracy. Making America great should mean, creating a Nation of individual thinkers, not a Generation of Sheep.

Ambition, Emotional Intelligence, Life

Excerpts from my next book

Anthony Dixon

The Complexity of Morality

In the labyrinth of human existence, where the paths of virtue and vice intersect and intertwine, I find myself grappling with the age-old question of morality. As I ponder the teachings of Christ, I am struck by a profound realization—perhaps the simplicity of His message is not a flaw, but rather a beacon of light amidst the darkness of human complexity.

In my attempt to unravel the tangled threads of the human condition, I am reminded of the timeless wisdom of Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn—a voice from the depths of suffering, echoing across the annals of history. “The line separating good and evil,” he wrote, “passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either—but right through every human heart—and through all human hearts.”

These words resonate with a clarity that cuts through the fog of confusion, illuminating the very essence of our shared humanity. For in the crucible of our own hearts, the battle between light and darkness rages on—a perpetual struggle that transcends the boundaries of time and space. And yet, amidst the chaos and uncertainty, there exists a glimmer of hope—a small bridgehead of good, retained even within hearts overwhelmed by evil.

As I reflect on these profound truths, I am confronted with a sobering realization—we are not mere bystanders in the theater of life, but active participants in the unfolding drama of existence. Our thoughts, our deeds, our actions—they carry weight far beyond the confines of our own consciousness. For we are not only the architects of our own destiny, but the custodians of each others.
In the quiet solitude of the night, I pondered the essence of our interconnectedness, the inherent responsibility we bear for one another. We are not merely individuals navigating the journey of life; we are custodians of each other’s well-being, bound by the sacred duty to uplift and protect.

Reflecting on this profound insight, I contemplated the notion of a “good” age to depart from this world. Is there a predetermined threshold, a point at which our purpose is fulfilled, our contributions deemed sufficient? Or is the measure of a life defined not by its duration, but by the depth of its impact, the legacy it leaves behind?

As dawn began to break, casting a gentle glow upon the world awakening anew, I realized that the answer lay not in the hands of time, but in the way we choose to live each precious moment. For in the end, it is not the years we accumulate, but the love we share, the kindness we extend, and the lives we touch that truly define the richness of our existence.

And so, as I watched the homeless man fade into the distance, his silhouette merging with the landscape, I vowed to embrace each day with gratitude and compassion, knowing that in the tapestry of life, every thread is woven with purpose and significance.

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Anthony Dixon
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After publishing my first Book I learned that the most pivotal responsibility for your Book Marketing was yours. Hence I am drawn into Social media Marketing. Creating and collecting Videos, of which there are many Downloads. Creating Direct Traffic. Where else would I get to tell People that with Continuous Advertising, you can sell Books. As a sponsored product on Amazon,I get a lot of Impressions, on my website I get 74 percent of the people that visit my website stays and read something. Like the saying goes “I’m loving it. When I started Blogging I never thought that I would have written or Posted 598 Posts.

Ambition, America, Autobiography, Bio, Black History, Dr King, Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Inclusion, Life, Motivation, Religion

Inscasable

Anthony Dixon

Inscasable: The Urge for Going Back for Seconds and Thirds

Have you ever experienced that irresistible urge to go back for seconds and thirds? It’s a sure sign that something is exceptionally good. Interestingly, I never considered applying the term “inscasable” to a book until I read Cannery Row. Now, I’m confronted with my own book, Through Her Eyes Revised, and realizing just how inscasable it is.

After employing four different AI software programs to edit the book, I’ve read it over twenty times. Today, I downloaded the Kindle version, and to my surprise, I still found it just as interesting. This experience has made me reflect on my journey as a blogger and writer.

When I started blogging, I made a promise to myself: each blog post would be better than the last. Over the past eleven years, I’ve written more than five hundred blog posts, and this book is the culmination of all that work. It’s a product of continuous improvement, dedication, and a passion for storytelling.

Through Her Eyes Revised isn’t just a book; it’s a testament to the power of persistence and the joy of revisiting something you love, time and time again. Whether it’s a beloved meal or a cherished book, some things are simply inscasable. The Book is available everywhere my favorite place is Amazon.

P.S. just published my first Children’s book: “Children with big Ears and Potty Mouth”. Also on Amazon

Book overview

Book Description:

In “Children with Big Ears and Potty Mouth,” young readers are taken on a journey filled with laughter, lessons, and unforgettable characters. This engaging and thought-provoking tale explores the importance of making wise decisions early in life, emphasizing how these choices shape who we become.

Through a series of entertaining and relatable stories, children will discover that their words and actions have a significant impact on their future. As they follow the adventures of the protagonists, they will learn about the power of kindness, the value of respect, and the joy of growing up to be the best version of themselves.

Perfect for parents, teachers, and young readers, “Children with Big Ears and Potty Mouth” is a must-read for anyone who believes in the potential of every child to choose their path wisely and grow up with integrity and character.